"It’s just not the right time."
"Right person, wrong time."
Is this a thing?
What is the “wrong time?”
Maybe you’re healing? Totally understandable.
Maybe you’re trying to find yourself? Of course.
Really busy with personal things? Alright.
Is it just me or are all of these things’ kind of..
Idk..
Always happening?
Are we ever done healing?
Are we ever truly done finding ourselves?
Is our life ever perfectly figured out?
At that given time, one of you or both were in need of growth/change in order for that relationship to flourish (this is used loosely, maybe you all were never “right” for each other at all). When I say growth/change was needed, in one or both of you, that can vary with so many things. Maybe growth needed to happen for both of you to come to terms with what you wanted from that relationship, or you were going through things you needed to grow through (see what I did there, not go through BUT grow, lol), you get the gist.
For anyone seeking growth in their lives, they are constantly changing, constantly evolving. They aren’t the same exact person every single day. Who is to say when “the right time” rolls around, you will still be fitting to this person, because after all you have changed since then?
That is why it has nothing to do with time.
FLOURISH: (of a person, animal, or other living organism) grow or develop in a healthy or vigorous way, especially as the result of a particularly favorable environment. This “favorable environment” was not time, that doesn’t even make sense. The “favorable environment” was who you all were, what your morals were, and what your values and priorities consisted of.
This applies to any relationship, not just significant others. There will always be things going on outside of our relationships in our own lives. It’s how we choose to feed (or not to feed) and nourish this relationship outside of the obstacles, if it ends up flourishing.
Nourishing relationships through obstacles in life- action,
relationships flourishing and growth coming from both parties- result.
If you have read my Actions=Results blog, you would understand why these words are implemented into all my blogs now and how they are so important.
Let go of thinking time has control over how things work out with people. Nourish and flourish and when people that should play their part in your life come around, find out how you can grow together. Don’t throw people away right when things don’t go as “planned” in your life, re-evaluate, look at the priority their relationship with you holds and go from there. Sometimes it is letting go of that person, sometimes they played their role in your life, but the role has expired because you no longer grow, or they are preventing growth in any way. This is starting to sound a lot like my last post, Pick Your Poison. If you haven’t read it, go check it out, it's all about toxicity and the role it plays in one’s growth.
You know how this goes:
Be proud of yourself. Be proud to admit sometimes you need more growth before you flourish a healthy relationship. Be okay with letting go of the theory of everything is time sensitive. Be proud of the work you put into it to help that relationship grow into something beautiful. Be proud of your personal growth. Be proud of the growth you encourage in relationships.
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