“They are so shallow”
Shallow…
No, not the part of the pool you can touch.
I have heard it used too much in reference to people but I have never truly broken down the meaning when used.
When I think about someone being shallow, the first that comes to mind is.. very surface level thinking. Not much depth to that person or their thoughts. Kind of like that person you hate talking to because the conversation goes a little bit like this..
Hey
Hey, what’s up?
Not much what about you?
Just working
Oh fun
Yeah
Yah
Cool
Yup
We all dread those people, we also dread meeting new people in fear of this is how it will play out. That it will take a drunken night full of 1 too many drinks to get them to open up and be truthful, deep and mindful. That it may take a full-on mental breakdown for them to open up in the slightest. We carry this fear of opening up to people, letting them know about us, our past, our mindset, our goals, our aspirations. We think we will get to know people by staying at this surface level of thinking. The mind is a crazy thing, this may be my love for psychology coming out, but... Is our minds not to most interesting things though? We have this big blob of peanut butter in our skull that carries our every thought, ever… You’re lying if you say that isn’t cool.
Anyway, back to surface level thinking. Do we really want relationships that consist with no more that shallow gossip, small talk and “hey, how are you’s.” Let’s break the stigma of small talk. We have to learn to dig deeper to truly understand why people are the way they are. We can’t just drag through all the small talk and expect to understand people. Do you realize how much we judge others based solely on the fact, we DON’T KNOW THEM and why they are the way they are. You would be shocked at how much you can challenge your own mind and thoughts when you explore others. Dig deeper than surface level, go into the deep end. Dive head first, break through the stagnant shallow waters, explore the deep dark unknown, undiscovered, beautiful parts of others and even yourself. You will learn so much about yourself, about them and you can help them understand themselves as well. We can also find that we can relate with so much to an abundance of people we never expected to.
Remember:
Be proud of change. Be proud of vulnerability. Be proud of challenging someone to think deeper, even yourself. Break the stigma of small talk. Be proud of challenging your anxiety with deep vulnerable conversation. Be proud of your growth, always.
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